How to make any celebration liberating, brave, and meaningful.
All of us face the question: How do I become something new without losing myself? Mark O’Connell reflects on conflicts that arrive during wedding transitions, as well as various other transitions throughout your lives.
As a psychotherapist, O’Connell offers ideas to bridge relational gaps with your partner, family, and friends. As a professional actor, he also offers insight on how to increase creative collaboration in all of your relationships.
Praise for Modern Brides & Modern Grooms:
Review in The Knot
“Part planning guide and part memoir, Mark O’Connell weaves anecdotes of his own experiences into useful tips for navigating wedding planning and marriage. The book’s impeccably inclusive writing makes it relatable for all couples, regardless of race, orientation or religion.”
Review in Out Magazine
“[T]he most impressive aspect is the book’s inclusivity. Not only could it be used as a very practical wedding guide–regardless of your religious background, income level, or sexual orientation–it could function as a broadly insightful text for anyone interested in reflecting on their relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners (past, present, or desired future).”
Review in Journal of GLBT Family Studies
“More than a guide to planning a wedding, Modern Brides and Modern Grooms is about opening up communication and deepening your relationship. Published in 2014, a year after DOMA was declared unconstitutional, it emphasizes the “nontraditional” ways GLBTQ people have been portrayed and the importance of opposing established norms. O’Connell honestly shares experiences from his own life and comforts readers with whatever struggles they may have during this process, making it an essential read for anyone wanting a better understanding of themselves by way of exploring the emotions that accompany the planning of a wedding.”
“No matter what circumstances surround your relationship or what kind of wedding you want, Mark’s perspective and advice will prove invaluable to working out the kinks and having not only your dream wedding, but better communication with your significant other, family, friends, and in-laws.” —Liza Monroy, author of The Marriage Act
“This is the most timely book published this year. O’Connell’s book is a breeze to read, filled with wonderful examples of what he calls ‘queer marriage’ and illustrated with examples from his own marriage to another man, as well as from other marriages. It is a pleasure to read. I expect his next book will be about queer adoptions. And why not?” —Charles Silverstein, PhD, gold medal winner for lifetime achievement from APA and coauthor of The Joy of Gay Sex
“So, your wedding day . . . It has to be perfect. Mark O’Connell’s book immediately allows you to take a deep breath and say, ‘We can do this!’ It’ll help make your dream a reality with stress-free planning, communication, and love for your wedding day.” —Del Shores, award-winning director and writer of Sordid Lives
Interviews and Press:
Gay News Interview Preview: “Why did you write this book?”
Radio Interview on The PLAYroom with Coach Casey: 3/10/15
Imago Relationship International Think Tank with Dr. Tammy Nelson: 1/28/15
Imago Interview Preview: Who is this book for?
Full Imago Interview
Oped and Excerpt in Truthdig.com
Modern Brides & Modern Grooms Launch Gala: A Broadway Cabaret to Benefit IHI Therapy Center